We are all too comfortable with the idea of things being ‘perfect’. If not perfect, one aims at ‘near perfection’ – like a pastry (at least) instead of a chocolate ice cream ?
Why are we so obsessed with perfection anyway?
The idea of perfect looks, the struggles to have a perfect career, the effort to have a perfect social life, the strange ideal to live up to perfect economic standards and the apethetic levels of make ourselves desirable to everyone.
Unfortunately, we are most likely to be disappointed by these ideals, I will only give 2 reasons to suffice this statement –
- Humans were never designed to be perfect
- The Act of perfection is purely a state of mind
Humans were never designed to be perfect
Often people seemed to be delusional by the mere ‘idea’ of what perfection could be. Let us say, if one falls under the bracket of being perfect then, then why does the others feel secondary or get a feel of inadequacy?
Blame our upbringing or the outlook that we got to witness on a day-day basis. There is constant and relentless competition (not the healthy one or similar to one) to outdo one another, rather than taking time out to appreciate one’s ability in achieving better than the others. Throughout our careers, the ‘ability’ is often misconstrued to be everyone’s cup of tea and needless to say a thing ‘meant to be achieved by all’.
Hard to comply and harder to remind oneself that as a lesser mortal – we are only designed to be human and in the plagued idea of perfectionism –we push ourselves to intense self-criticism and get rid of all possibility from the feeling of fulfillment .
The Act of perfection is purely a state of mind
Being perfect in the eyes of the beholder often leads to series of judgements we cast upon ourselves.
As a child, with no aspersions of pros and cons – even play at the nearest puddle of water, gives sheer happiness – as we grow older, in our pursuit of being perfect, we give ourselves an unrealistic picture to achieve and in the melee we oversee imperfections as ‘bad’ and often end up with hordes of insecurities.
Just like how satisfying it is to see advertisement of a good-looking perfect-couple enjoying their time together at an exotic location– we tend to emphasize on the concept of holiday, an exotic place, luxury and the splendor involved. However, beyond the exotic locale or luxury the sheer love between two people and intense thoughtfulness in being there for each other if seen as a crux – a short drive towards a quiet,beautiful country side can serve equally exotic in this context of a perfect holiday too.
The road to perfection is slightly misleading . At times we lose the tendency to negotiate, will not trust on other’s capacity as the need to achieve perfection hits one right through,we tend to over work , and eventually become less humane or even difficult to deal with.
A true perfectionist needn’t run behind the title or make it a point to showcase his/her ‘perfect’ talents instead, only need to understand and be more present in the real world of imperfections.
Give this a thought!
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